You Must Be Able to Give Yourself Validation
If you can't give love and validation to yourself, all the validation you get from others ends up being meaningless.
This Week on Rae’s Tea
Launching The Polyglot Shop on
this week! 🛒🤑3-Day Weekend chill, I went to the zoo
Spent 7 hours working on my upcoming Content Management Notion Template
Re-defined my Target Audience and Mission online for my personal brand
(in Notion)
Waagwaan Frennies,
Writing this newsletter is easily becoming my favourite time of the week. I feel like I can be more intimate with you, and share real insights into building a life you are unapologetically in love with. It’s way more personal than salesy, tip-oriented IG carousels or twitter threads.
This weekend was a holiday in Europe and I went outside and touched grass. The later half of the evening was wonderful, I ate delicious food, saw zoo animals and lounged around in the sun.
But the day didn’t start out as great…
It’s been awhile since I took a weekend to just do some things I want to do. I’m in a transition period of my life and it feels selfish to go into town and spend money. My decisions to build this lifestyle were weighing down on me, I was anxious and I felt like no one understood me and perhaps I was secretly wrong. I was screaming help, and it seemed like everyone around me thought I was overreacting. I felt invisible.
My heart was heavy and I had a panic attack at Kungsträgården, among the hundreds of beautiful cherry-blossom trees and laughing children.
It’s so easy to feel like your dreams are foolish.
Over the years, I’ve been consistently strengthening my determination to do the impossible. To create a life in a way that fits my design, my dreams and my values. I used to try to explain my ideas to my parental figures over and over and I’d get so full of doubt and depression whenever they didn’t see.
❌ Then I looked to my partner.
❌ Then to the internet.
❌ Then to my friends for comfort
It’s a never ending cycle. Not believing in yourself and seeking external validation is not something that goes away with time. It’s something we must actively work through.
Some wisdom paraphrased from the oracle in 1999 film The Matrix,
Being the one is a lot like being in love. No one can tell you that you’re in love. You just feel it. You know it in your bones.
⭐️ No one can tell you your life is valid, not even you. You can’t just think it. You have to feel it, and keep quieting your worries with your faith in your intuition ⭐️
Recommended watch:
This video podcast also helped to shape this message today. I think you’ll enjoy it! ♥️